From my standpoint, private moments are “intended for or restricted to the use of a particular person, group, or class.” Over the past few weeks, however, many private moments have been made public, and not by the subjects of the incidents.
Donald Sterling. Michael Sam. Jay-Z.
Does success mean that one’s private life is now completely open to the public? And why is the public starving for peeks into the darkest parts of the lives of celebrities? We seem less concerned with the work and effort that public figures put in behind the curtain that makes them great than we are with their dirt, their flaws, their weaknesses. Maybe it allows us to bring these figures down to our level… or lower.
Our smart phones put a video camera and audio recorder in every pocket, allowing anyone of us to capture the most private moments of someone else’s life, no matter how inappropriately obtained the truth on tape may be. Social media networks provide immediate, global and eternal exposure to the sound bytes and 6-second video clips of the best at-their-worst situations that are not ready for public consumption. And anyone can post anything, without ever having taken any ethics courses.
And why, once those unauthorized media are made public, do we feel we have the right to observe, critique, and publicly bash the private lives of others, regardless of how distasteful their opinions or lifestyle may be to us? After all, it wasn’t their choice to make those moments public.
When a person makes the decision to publicize their own private lives, then they open themselves to scrutiny. But when this is done by someone else without their consent, I’m not so sure.
I’m not a lawyer, so I won’t pretend to argue the legalities of this situation. To me, it’s just not acceptable to publish someone’s private lives without their consent.
Contrary to what so many now think, every private moment is NOT for public consumption.
So, until I’m ready to relinquish MY own privacy and allow others to expose my private conversations, intimate moments and family issues – even my ugliest of opinions – I’m not ready to discuss another person’s private moments made public by someone else.
Tiny Investment…Huge Dividends December 26, 2013Posted by in : Uncategorized , add a comment
This morning, my family visited the Newark YMCA to do some giving.
Prior to our family time with food and family, we spent some time sharing with others. Besides serving food and distributing toys and gifts to the children there, we provided copies of my wife’s children’s books (the Ashti series) with the children.
Thanks to all those who sponsored copies of the books. Your generosity is paying HUGE DIVIDENDS.
Carmen and I are actually looking to partner with another organization to provide additional copies for more young people. Our goal is to give 150 books this holiday season.
Be a part of this gift by sponsoring a book for just $8/copy.
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We really appreciate your support!
Lee & Carmen
VIDEO: 5 Components of EXTRAORDINARY TEAMS December 2, 2013Posted by in : Videos , add a comment
I’ve been sharing this powerful message with TEAMS all over the country. It outlines 5 critical components found in outstanding teams – no matter the sport or industry.
Contact Lee directly to have him share this message with your team! firstname.lastname@example.org OR (732) 685-3708
LIU Coach, Jack Perri, Endorses Lee Rubin November 20, 2013Posted by in : Testimonials , add a comment
LIU – Brooklyn Men’s Basketball Coach, Jack Perri, invited me to share “5 Components of EXTRAORDINARY TEAMS” with his team recently. Here’s what he had to say about my talk:
“Lee was great! He was engaging, efficient, honest, and inspiring. Every one of our players learned something individually, and Lee reinforced what it takes for us to become a stronger team. I highly recommend him.” – Jack Perri
The Blackbirds start the season pursuing their 4th consecutive 20-win season.
Testimonial – Enrico Mastroianni: Georgian Court Basketball November 18, 2013Posted by in : Testimonials , add a comment
Just the other day, I got a chance to address the First-Ever Men’s Basketball Team at Georgian Court University in Lakewood, NJ. After my talk, check out what the head coach had to say about my presentation, “5 Components of Extraordinary Teams“:
“Lee’s message was genuine, motivational and completely supported the goals of our team. Having our players and coaches hear that reinforcement from a voice other than mine was extremely beneficial. Lee’s experience as a former athlete made him relevant and credible. Since his talk, our team has been much more focused, competitive and intense. The investment to have Lee come in is paying visible dividends already!” Enrico Mastroianni – Head Men’s Basketball Coach, Georgian Court University
Testimonial: Richard Allen – Neptune High School October 18, 2013Posted by in : Testimonials , add a comment
I had a blast sharing my message, “Don’t Just Play…WIN!” with the Senior Class of Neptune (NJ) High School. Here’s what the principal had to say after my talk:
Lee Rubin came to Neptune High School to inspire, motivate, and empower the student body. He did just that. He challenged the students to make winning the only option; to craft their specific and lofty goals to pave their path to personal success; and to embrace adversity as an agent for change and personal growth. His high energy, high intensity, and straight forward message resonates with the high school students who are looking for permission to be their very best. His story is different because he is unapologetic about making wise choices throughout his life. He is unapologetic about being a scholar-athlete. If success leaves clues, Lee Rubin left plenty behind in the MTL PAC of Neptune HS for students to ponder on their unique quest for excellence and no excuses. - Richard W. Allen, Ed.S.
Video Testimonial: Coach Cantafio (Cedar Cliff HS) October 3, 2013Posted by in : Testimonials, Videos , add a comment
Highly respected veteran Coach Cantafio of Cedar Cliff (PA) High School shared his thoughts on my talk, “5 Components of Extraordinary Teams” with his football team.
Penn State Football: Be Excellent October 3, 2013Posted by in : Videos , add a comment
During the 2013 pre-season camp, I stopped in to watch the Nittany Lions practice. Coach O’Brien asked me to say a few words to the team. My message was simple: Don’t just get better…BE EXCELLENT!
6.6 Miles April 12, 2013Posted by in : Uncategorized , add a comment
Yesterday, I attended the funeral of a young man whose life was taken at the age of 21. He lived in Asbury Park, NJ. Asbury Park is a small city on the Jersey Shore that wrestles with all the challenges of an inner city community: poverty, unemployment, crime, drugs, gangs and violence.
Yesterday (after attending the funeral), I had a business meeting with a talented, brilliant professional at the Starbucks in Sea Girt, NJ. Sea Girt is a small borough on the Jersey Shore that is “blessed with small town charm, rural beauty, and a rich community life with an abundance of recreational activities enjoyed by residents and visitors alike.”
The distance between Asbury Park and Sea Girt…just 6.6 miles.
How can two worlds be so close together…yet so far apart?
Bill O’Brien Endorses WIN for Student-Athletes February 6, 2013Posted by in : Uncategorized , add a comment
I was really excited to receive a strong endorsement for my newest book, WIN: Simple Insights to Help Student-Athletes Win the Game of Life from the 2012 Coach of the Year, Penn State’s Bill O’Brien.
Lee Rubin’s “WIN” is an inspiring book that all student athletes should read. With his own experience, Rubin writes up the winning play on how to succeed both on and off the field. - Bill O’Brien, Head Football Coach, Penn State University
Click on the image below to order your copy.