As a speaker, I hear lots of other speakers talk about how they overcame tremendous challenges. Whether the adversity was abuse (drugs, alcohol, domestic violence), poverty, or a physical challenge, I’ve noticed a consistent similarity in their stories:
They have specific goals that drives their behavior.
Most people know what they DON’T want. They do a good job of articulating their source of pain or frustration. They desire to be in a better place, but they have not decided where they DO want to be.
Your desire needs to be channeled. It needs a focus. Your desire for “better” can only be a driving force if you know where you’re going. If not, you’re all over the place and that energy gets wasted.